Food Cravings (work in progress)

15 11 2004

In my experience food cravings can occur for a number of reasons and people are led to consume pretty particular foodstuffs.

Food wanted

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Those foodstuffs tend to be Sugar, Wheat, Chocolate, Alcohol and this is by no means an exhaustive list.

(notice that none of these are really healthy foods….does anyone you know crave salad?)

The Culprits of cravings

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dietry imbalance

spiritual un-fulfillment

emotional unease

creative repression

How?

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I will be dealing here with the last two on the list: Creative repression and Emotional Unease

We all have an energy flowing through us, when we are happy and life is effortless all is good, but as soon as we try to stop something happening due to fear (our own personal expansion, some work we need to do or creating something like art or writing) we can experience a nervous, out of control feeling. We want to shut down the strong flow of energy and instead of being fearful regain control. For some people food is a way to block this feeling.

Eating sugar or fats and certian carbohydrates may leave them feeling dulled, hung over, unable to focus – blurry. They use food to block energy and change. As the nervy feeling comes over them that they are going too fast and into who knows what, they reach for fo0d. A big bowl of ice cream, an evening of junk food and their system clogs; What was i thinking? What….oh nevermind….

The mmoment a creative, fearful or challenging thought raises its head it is lopped off by the craving…this blocks fear and prevents risk.

So which is your block?

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Line up the possibilities.. Which one makes you angry to ever think about giving up? ……………………………..Well?

That explosive one is the one that has caused you the most derailment. Examine it…….

Is it sabotaging your growth?

Ask yourself this question also…Am i eating/drinking this to numb the worry of my inner emptyness?

What do you do to help?

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Recognise what is happening within you before the cravings strike.

1) Begin to notice what you are thinking and where you were going (metorapholically) before you got that feeling of needing that foodstuff? Was it that you began to worry (in the tinyest of ways) about for example: University, the painting you need to complete, the friend you need to phone, your meeting new people tonight perhaps you are worried about going out in a large group of people in a loud environment that evening and satisfying your craving helps to numb that pain?

Take note: More than likely the thought that creates this cravnig is deelpy buried and may take sometime to come into your concious…keep noticing in what situation the craving arrives, you will find an answer.

2) Emotional. What are you feeling before the craving takes hold?

DIfferent foodstuffs will repress different emotional states (**)

Is there a trend?

For example, before you get a cravging for sugar, do you feel a sense of emptyness or fear. Perhaps before you crave chocolate you have a sense of being blocked, not being able to do what you feel you have to, anger, not knowing what to do to get over that?

Satisfying the craving lets all that subside.

Take mental or actual notes of all of this to see if there are trends.

Then Realise that this is happening and Understand that YOU are creating all this, noone else.

References

The Artist Way, Julia Cameron.

Food and healing, Annemarie Colbin.





"Dad, I’m a wimp"

12 11 2004

A young son says to his dad, “Dad i am a wimp”.

The father looks at him with loving, knowing eyes and says,

“Son you’re not a wimp”

“But i am daddy, all the boys at school tell me so ‘cos i don’t join in all their games.”

“Son”, the father says, “you’re not a wimp, you just havent found your strength yet. I can see it, i can see you are a strong and powerfull man, you just havent seen it yet” and he smiles.

“But dad, all the other boys are so strong and tough, i want what they have”.

“You know, you have something very important that they DONT have”.

“Whats that”

“Inner strength, love and compassion”.

“Eh?”

“If someone’s hurt would you go and help?”

“Yes”

“Do you think they would….let me answere this…..maybe, maybe not. Right? What you have is more important, you just haven’t seen it yet”.

“What do you mean dad, when you say that you haven’t ‘seen’ it yet?”

The father replies in kind, knowing that a straight answer would’nt let his son truly learn this lesson. “What do you think life would be like if we were made perfect?” he says.

“Great! we would all be friends. we would be able to do anything we wanted”.

“Nice thought, but, that way life would be so boring. it would be terrible. All shopping at the same stores, buying the same clothes because we all know what we look good in, all eating the same food, because we know exactly what we need, all driving the same cars. Alll playing the same computer games, always the same one because it would be perfect…”

“hmm..”

“If we’re not all the same, not all perfect, it’s is so much more interesting and fun”.

“Why?”

“This way we get to find out things, to discover, explore ourselves, feel great when we do something we never thought we could, be better than we are now. Improve, invent, help, encourage, grow, expand…”

“All right dad! I’m still not sure wht you mean though?”

“Well imagine if Johhny, your best friend, were to fall down and hurt himself, what would you do?”

“I’d help him”.

“After you’d helped him, did you feel happy that you could help”.

“not sure…”

“Ok, look at it the other way. If he fell down and hurt himself, and you weren’t able to get to him to help and you could see he was hurting, would you feel sad?”

“Yes, very”.

“So SUDDENLY you were able to help him, and you did, what would you feel”.

“Great, thankful, good”.

“Exactly. If were were all perfect we could help ourselves, and we would never need to halp anyone else…we would never be able to feel that great feeling of being able to help someone. That’s just one example son” the dad pauses “Are you getting what i mean?”

“Hmm, kind’ve”.

“When you look at some movie stars on the tv going to one of their films, what do you think of them?”

“Well they look like they are having a good time”.

“Yes, they do don’t they. Do you KNOW they are having a good time”.

“Yeah, they are smiling holding hands maybe, chatting, looking happy”.

“Yep, looking happy, but inside, in here..” the father puts his hand to his chest, “..are they?

“Don’t know dad”.

“Uhhuh”.

“What are you trying to say Dad?”

“That they are in exactly the same situation as you, but a little bit older…….They may look like they are happy, people are talking about them everywhere and they are successful and rich maybe, but what’s that got to do with it, if they are not happy…..they are just like you”.

The father continues..

“What i am trying to say is that you are no better, or worse than anybody else. Just different.

So whenever you see those boys in the playground, realise that you are not like THEM, you are YOU and YOU are brilliant at being whoever YOU are. If you were like them , you would have to learn to be brilliant, like my son over there, standing on the sidelines looking and not joining in because he knows that’s not what he wants to do. Learn about your brilliance and you will be happier and shine more than any of them”.

“Ok dad.”

“Anytime”.